WOW, I haven't been on here in a VERY long time, but I thought it would be appropriate to share this with you as I just was sharing with my best friend the other day and she was so floored she kept calling it a miracle:
(For some backgroung, see the Post I wrote on Losing Son...under Parenting I think)
So, my dh isn't exactly into parenting like I would like him to be
BUT...I got so sick of dealing with ds and the computer and video games so I finally reached some point a month or two ago where I just started telling ds that I would not deal with those anymore...do NOT ask me for permission or anything to do with them...if he asked when Daddy wasn't home, I said, I'm not dealing with those, you'll have to wait until he gets home and ask him...I said this quite a bit over the first few weeks and I Know dh heard me and ds told him what I said...well, right off I was slightly bothered when I came home or something and knew ds had spent hours playing on one or the other, but I didn't say anything...can't have a double standard right, either I am or I'm not...haha...so I didn't and kept totally totally sticking to my guns
I'm not answering those questions, I'm not dealing with those games, I'm not giving permission, etc. Well, it didn't take long for me to hear dh telling ds...you have one hour, or something that almost sounded like parenting, instead of just saying "I don't care" or whatever. Well, he started more and more giving him time limits and then a few weeks ago he had given ds ONE hour and then ds didn't turn it off on time (it does take several minutes to shut either down) so dh reminded him, then went back and reminded/warned him again a little more agitated, THEN when ds did get off and have it turned off, dh told him that it was 36 minutes past when he was supposed to be off, so he just lost 36 days, DAYS, of computer time....WHOA! I thought I just won the lottery! Then a week or two later I heard dh mention that ds had lost like 10 more days for not obeying/listening to him....This is TRULY truly a miracle. GOD is so very good and so very faithful. I just wanted to share that with you all...I don't know if it will help or if it will be encouraging, I Hope so....I Hope I handled it in a way that would bring glory to GOD and honor my dh.
Now, I may be here tomorrow crying because of something else, but hopefully GOD is really working on me...and to think 12 years ago, I thought I was the "good one" the Christian and I didn't need to be fixed......hahahahaha..... LOL!
Can you believe that! Now I'm praying more and more to be changed and delivered from my wrong thinking, my attitude, my sin, my bad habits, etc...and I don't even know what all they are right now, but I'm sure they are there and HE'll reveal them when HE knows is best and he just might keep using my lost husband to do it...and that's okay, Amen?
Wow, thanks for sharing! It does encourage me & give me hope! I think what my dh did yesterday was a first step for him. He grabbed hold of the reigns....granted, he didn't know which direction to go & he didn't really know how to use the reigns, but the most important part is that
he has the reigns in his hand! And I just have to be patient & supportive & pray for him!
