Keep me from "Snapping"

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« Reply #30 on: January 28, 2010, 08:44:38 PM »

I wanted to thank you all for praying and ask you to keep praying....I have been reading a very interesting book, it's extremely helpful BUT I also need to keep it all in perspective, GODLY perspective....I don't think it's written from a Biblical perspective, BUT it's hitting my dh and our relationship and home EXACT......Anyway, it's helped me pray a little different and one thing...it does show why I've not been helping matters with my response to his bad behavior...people who, oh, I hate to use the phrase, "verbally abuse" so if one of you could come up with something better, I'd appreciate it, but anyway, these people (NOT always men as my MIL is horrible and I'm sure this is a learned behavior for my dh, from birth on...) anyway, being apologetic or pitiful or whatever doesn't HELP with them apparently, so I guess I need to communicate better...anyway, the book just about FELL in my lap at the library, and they had JUST got it too....

So, pray for me to constantly be led by the HOLY SPIRIT in my actions, responses, timing, communication, etc...

I want to teach my children how they should treat people and I didn't realize how common the things dh does are in others who do the same...it really blew me away, right down the exact words/comments they use over and over, but I found a forum of men mostly, seem to be good Christians there, who are like my dh and hope that some of the info there will help....found some wonderful Scriptures for the "victims" and other prayers and ideas....so all this to say...

PLEASE PLEASE pray...I do NOT not not like or get into a bunch of psychology and those who practice it and believe it...so I have been staying in prayer and am NOT 'DOING' anything but reading and learning right now and lots of praying...

Dh has been really really super different for the last week or more....so I"m going to give GOD all the glory and honor and praise for that....now and always,

AMEN?

Love and prayers
In Christ


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« Reply #31 on: January 28, 2010, 10:55:13 PM »

amen sister!! I have prayed for your request! God is able to go above and beyond all that we ask! thanks for letting us go on and thru this journey with you! When it gets tough keep hanging on with all you got! All glory to God, for its in him alone that we are victorious!! hugs and love from our home to yours......


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Re: Keep me from "Snapping"

« Reply #32 on: January 29, 2010, 07:09:30 AM »

Just wanted to clarify, I am NOT communicating with those men or victims on that forum, just took some of the info from it....

Didn't want anyone to think I was being so foolish


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« Reply #33 on: January 29, 2010, 01:52:31 PM »

Prayed for you today In Christ.


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« Reply #34 on: January 30, 2010, 03:54:32 PM »

Studying Esther lately and learning about how important it is to not stay ANGRY about situations. Its so hard sometimes to make Christ bigger than our circumstances...and to fully surrender when we still have some " fight" left in us. You can always be thankful for SOMETHING. Try to think of those things. Praying for some of us tonight.


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« Reply #35 on: February 13, 2010, 07:42:55 PM »

Just thinking about you and hoping that things are going better for you.


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In Christ

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« Reply #36 on: February 23, 2010, 10:02:53 PM »

Sorry I've not answered...my computer has a virus so I've been using dd's and I just hadn't signed her out of 7x and signed me in

Anyway, doing quite well. I've still got that book from the library, The Verbally Abusive Relationship, but I'm also listening to CTBHH on audio and trying very hard to keep everything in perspective, GODLY perspective that is....

So, it's hard to keep balance...but GOD is so good and so faithful. I can't tell you all how much I appreciate your prayers and thoughts. I have needed them...that book is certainly not from a biblical perspective and I'm quite ready to return it, LOL. But I did learn a lot too.

I am also slowly trying to make time to spend with my JESUS....some people may be able to just pray while working and all, but I think when you are cut down and all that constantly for years and years, I think just sitting in JESUS' lap and talking to HIM and hearing HIM say "I LOVE YOU ***" is very important...

Anyway, just wanted to make sure you all knew we were still hanging in here and I have NOT killed my husband...

Love and appreciation,
In Christ


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Re: Keep me from "Snapping"

« Reply #37 on: April 16, 2010, 08:00:30 AM »

Hello everyone. I have my computer fixed, LORD WILLING, for a while.

Dh is still not working, since July 17th

I'm still working a couple of days a week, I believe GOD knew we needed some time away from each other

LOL.

Life really is very good. I believe my dh is a little more insecure than I thought, so I need to think about that and pray about how to make him feel even more safe and secure.

I still can't grasp his mentality, to me he doesn't seem human as he has NO sympathy for people (his words) and he doesn't like being around people, which kills me! He's just got weird issues I can't seem to understand AT ALL.

I thank you all for being such an encouragement though. If the Lord ever lays us on your heart, I appreciate your prayers.

(oh, dh's mom is slowly dying with that brain cancer, we found out in August and her organs seem to be starting to shut down, we've been going to see her every week, so we've spent more time with all his siblings, it helps me realize so much of his personality is how they were raised)


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Re: Keep me from "Snapping"

« Reply #38 on: July 28, 2011, 09:03:15 PM »

I didn't re-read this blog, but wanted to just share/vent....

First, dh's mom passed away one year ago this week, I mention this because it was in my last post above.

So, it's been TWO years since dh has worked...I'm surprised with how well we've done with him not going to work each day, so that is a good thing...

but...I'm still not able to get how to deal with him, his very messed up mentality, and I'm trying to hard to just love...but I cannot stand to hear negative stuff all the time, he is absolutely getting worse and acts more and more like a 2 or 5 year old as time goes by...I babysat a little boy the other day and he was just stupid hateful because he didn't like the way the kid looked at him or something.

I have two young ones here now and he's so obnoxious, it's the most ridiculous, childish behaviour I have EVER EVER EVER seen from someone who is older than say, 10 years old...I do NOT understand this...

the stupid, mean, cruel, threats/comments are getting so old and I don't know how to smile and ignore them...I don't have my suck up, kiss up, smile and cry in secret, take every blow and turn the other cheek and take the next one (verbal, not physical) attitude anymore...and what's worse, my dd seems to have NO recollection of the 16 years of all that kiss up, doormat, love em and keep smiling while you are DYING on the inside way I treated him so well, she now seems to think I need to be more patient and kind and looving and it scares me to death to think that she just might allow/tolerate someone to treat her and her family like this one day....I'd probably just have to DIE of a broken heart if she had to live like this her whole life and raise my grandchildren in this type of enviroment......okay, my computer is messing up, so I can't see what I'm typing again....I just can't get my mind to figure out what to do...

Thanks for any and all prayers...it'll be a long week with two extra precious boys in the house and a 50 year old acting like he's younger than they are....


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